January 22nd, 2026

YOU DON'T KNOW UNTIL YOU KNOW

Clarity

Sometimes clarity is the only thing you need to find. Not certainty. Not reassurance. Not a five-step plan held together by caffeine and anxiety.

Just clarity.

It’s not easy. It doesn’t arrive on command. And it almost never shows up when life feels neat and predictable.

But damn… when it hits, it’s unreal. Because clarity brings peace. And within peace, your clarity shines.

Here’s the part people don’t like to talk about.

Sometimes the universe clears things out before it gives you what you asked for. Relationships. Habits. Roles. Comforts. Things you were attached to. Things that felt safe. Things that quietly stopped fitting.

Not to punish you. To make room. Yes, to make room.

And clarity is what it feels like when that clearing finally makes sense. When the noise dies down and you can finally see what’s been trying to reach you.

Let Me Give You a Picture

You walk into a coffee shop. You step up to the counter. Barista’s ready. Pad out. Pen in hand.

You want a Carmel Machaito, but you say to the Barista, “I don’t want black coffee.”

She looks at you. Pauses. Then says, “Cool… so what do you want?”

And you repeat, “I don’t want black coffee.”

Guess what never shows up on that counter.

Your delisious carmel machiato

Because no matter how clear you think you’re being, you’re not placing an order. You’re just letting them know about an option you don’t want.

That’s how a lot of people move through life. “I don’t want to be broke.” “I don’t want to be stuck.” “I don’t want to be tired.” “I don’t want to be unhappy.”

That’s all black coffee talk.

You’re not telling life what you want. You’re just telling the world with what you don’t want, what you dont like.

And here’s the part people miss.

Whatever you focus on, wrestle with, repeat, and narrate… that’s what grows. Think of when you have had a string of bad things happen, you just cannot seem to get away from it. and you say "when it rains it pours." Why can't it rain good things? because you only speak about the negatives, that is why see them more.

Change your focus. put the umbrella up and see the positives around you. Clarity will show up.

Clarity is the moment you stop narrating the problem and start placing the order of what you want, not what you don't.

Not frantic. Not emotional. Clean.

“I want movement.” “I want momentum.” “I want health.” “I want energy.” “I want abundance.” “I want options.”

Just ask for it. You can find your clarity no matter where you are or what season you’re in, but you have to ask for it like it’s already yours.

Say it clearly. Say it deliberately. Say it like you expect it to be served.

That’s when things shift.

That’s when you start seeing things before they happen. That’s when you plan ahead without fully knowing why. That’s when you stay calm while others are scrambling.

You’re not lucky. You’re not psychic. You’re clear.

And clarity doesn’t make life louder. It makes it cleaner.

Peace isn’t passive. It’s precision.

And when clarity lives inside that peace, you don’t chase what’s coming.

You’re already ready for it.

~Big Ern

About the Author

Ernie “Big Ern” Becker is a Broker, Owner of United Real Estate Queen City, and a Master Sales & Negotiation Strategist (MSTC) serving Charlotte, NC and Fort Mill, SC. He helps buyers, sellers, and real estate investors make smart moves with strategy-first guidance and negotiation-forward execution.
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YOU DON'T KNOW UNTIL YOU KNOW

Clarity

Let Me Give You a Picture

Big Ern

United Real Estate Queen City

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